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5 Free Activities in the City this Week

2011-01-09T18:58:00.000-08:00

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Week of January 9-16th, 2011

Anderson O'Brien's Fine Art Gallery
8724 Pacific Street
Free Admission
11am-8pm Mon-Sat
11am-5pm Sun

Free Tai Chi
Monday and Thursday
Papillion Rec Center
7pm- 8:30pm
1100 W. Lincoln Rd.
Papillion, NE

Wednesday
Free Yoga, Meditation, Breathwork
6:00 pm-7:15 pm
Hindu Temple - Social Hall
13010 Arbor St.
Omaha, NE

Thursday January 13th
Kids Club
Shadow Lake Towne Center
10:30-11:30 am.
Free
Meet at Borders for a Puppet Show

Friday the 14th
FREE NO Cover Dance Night
Shark Club
2808 72nd St.
8pm

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Five FREE WEEKLY Finds in the City

2010-12-26T18:20:00.001-08:00

Week of December 26th, 2010

1. Free Salsa Lessons Thursday Night

8-10 pm

Club Irie

302 S. 11th

2. FREE Play and Admission for Kids

With a lunch purchase

Monday thru Thursday

10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.

Skate Daze

3616 S. 132nd Street

3. Free Admission til Dec. 31st

Sarpy County Historical Museum

2402 Clay Street

Bellevue

4. No cover Acoustic Show

Soaring Winds Vineyards

Sundays 2-5pm

17111 S. 138th Street, Springfield

5. Free Theatre Training Troupe classes

(Does not include make up class)

Plattsmouth Library

9:00 a.m. – 4:00 p.m.

Must Register: 296-4154.

The 5 worst times to dump someone

2010-12-03T19:16:00.000-08:00

For many years being the consoling friend most devastated dumped friends turn to, I’m dumbfounded by the tactless timing the dumper does. We feel desired while enjoying time with a potential mate. Then the unexpected: the heart wrenching dump dialogue.

Here are a few tips on how to handle the timing better and hopefully ease the pain.

1. Bad time: Right before dinner comes

There you are sitting in a quiet romantic booth staring at the menu. The waiter takes your order and leaves. Then your heart gets stabbed when your date starts off a conversation with the dreaded: “I have to tell you something…”. Choking back tears in a crowded place while waiting for a meal will ruin anyone’s appetite.

Some believe that if bad news is given in a public place, it will detract a person from making an embarrassing scene. This is not always the case.

Better time: If you’re planning on calling it quits to someone, give them privacy. A better time to do it is in their home after the date. This gives you a chance to leave and leaves them in the comforts of their home to cry. If you’ve only been dating for a short time, in your car would be fine. But be aware you may have to wait for them to get out of your car. Some will desperately ask why and you may have to have a long depressing discussion with lots of reassuring sentences.

2. Bad time: On the way to the date.

Prepped and primped ready to impress in public then as you sit in the passenger side captive, they slam on the brakes to your heart. Rambling about how they’ve met someone else. You think to yourself, “Dang it! What a waste of pretty!”

Better time: After the date either in the person’s home or in the car. Minimize ruining a perfectly good time or evening. Stay cordial to the very end.

3. Bad time: Sunday or the start of the week

Relaxing sleeping in Sunday morning, snuggled up on the sofa until the afternoon watching reruns with nothing to do. Or having lunch with the family after church service then lightening strikes upon you and hell just froze over. You get a phone call or text that puts a dramatic freeze on your soul.

Better time: Toward the end of the week around their weekend time. Even most managers know this rule. Give bad news at the end of the day or week. This allows the person time to wallow, letting out the cries of self-pity, sulking in internalizing. And hopefully get it out of their system and start their second day off feeling refreshed and moving on toward another goal.

Most of us start our week with a to do list a mile long stretched out over the week. Mix in heart broken emotions will get anyone’s concentration level frozen with dazed confusion. For those that know the next day appearances of crying, it isn’t pretty.

4. Bad time: In front of someone or through someone.

The phone rings, it’s your best friend you haven’t talked to in a month. She wants to share some good news and bad news. First, she’s in love! Second, she says she wants to come clean about something. Then you hear a recognizable voice as if they were on the phone the whole time listening. The love of your life has just confessed, your ears turned deaf.

Breaking up on any social networks, three way call, or leaving personal belongings on your ex’s doorstep is off limits. The only time to bring a friend in is if you feel the person would get violent and you need a witness.

Better time: Alone one on one or over the phone. Give a person respectful privacy when delivering bad news. They will most likely slam on you behind your back to a trusted friend anyway. Don’t give them even more reasons to raise the heated tension borderline hatred by smashing the barrier lines of embarrassment.

5. Bad Time: Right after sex or getting an expensive gift.

After giving your beau a beautiful piece of pricey jewelry for the holiday season, the evening turns intensely hot and heavy, probably the best you both have had. Sharing smooth sensuality, an intimate meaningful moment holding each other afterwards, then slap in the face they want to break it off. The tender caress turned into a whipping cat of nine tails with no lives left.

Better time: If you are planning to break up with a person, avoid both; sex and gifts. The person will only end up feeling used. The break up is a rip of the heart enough. If you planned on breaking up with them don’t set out to get your last wrapped packages you think you deserve to get. They may stuff something down your chimney in revenge.

Breaking up by technology is a lot more impersonal, but is the most preferred way to break things off - through phone, email, or text. It is a way to avoid seeing hurtful expressions on a person’s face or lack there of. To not give in to changing your mind simply to try to ease someone else’s pain but yet hurt inside yourself as you aren’t being true to your own soul.

To avoid a call, text, or email from the broken hearted is a lot easier to do than to sense the person’s pain whose heart you broke. Sure it may hurt, but it hurts them just as much to feel guilty to speak to someone they know is hurting because of them.

Try your best to ease someone’s pain by lovingly giving them their time and privacy in a comforting place to grieve through the process. Give them the respectful decency to weep in the privacy of their own comfortable home where they have access to hug a pillow and plenty of tissues.

Five times When NOT to call when you’re JUST DATING

2010-10-11T18:01:00.000-07:00

In the beginning, when you’re just dating occasionally in the spare time that’s left, the relationship and boundary building begins from the first attractive contact. Most successful single people have schedules to keep their lives structured. The older we are, the more we value our time and sleep. Follow these time rules to figure out how to get in - on that time.

1. Don’t call Past 10:00 pm on a school night

I refer to work nights as school nights since traditionally kids should be disciplined not to take calls past 10:00 pm if they need to be at school by 8:00 am the next day. This limited activity time frame also applies for those tempting texts that you are urging to send or reply to. Respect the sleep in this overstimulated world of technology.

2. Don’t call before 8:00 am.

Sleep is precious to function properly. Like a school day, most people need a couple hours to wake up and get ready for their day. Until you get to know their routine, how much time they need to prepare for their day, or what speed of a waker upper they are, please don’t wake them up unnecessarily. They may have pushed the snooze button three times on their cell phone and unintentionally hang up on you.

3. Don’t call before Noon or after 5:00 pm on the weekends.

If you’re just dating, then understand they have the freedom to date other people, who they may have brought home from the night before. Don’t call after 5:00 p.m. especially past 7:00 pm on the weekends, they may be on a date. Don’t assume they’re not out with someone else. This can give them the impression you are too creepy eager, checking up on them, or already becoming possessive of their time.

4. Don’t call two hours before you want to go with them- to ask them out.

This is not ample enough time for some people to prepare. Most women need to plan for the occasion. Especially, do not call them on the weekend to plan a date on the same day. This sends a mixed message. This says you may have chosen them as a back up date. Your original date, you planned days in advance with, cancelled. Or you do not have any other prospects and desperate for a date.

5. Don’t call or text more than a few times if they have not answered your first one.

If they haven’t replied to you in a few hours or a few days, this means they may just be busy. It isn’t personal, single people tend to fill their time with a lot of activities with supportive friends and family. As successful people, we have many things to do to maintain that status. Technology and information is taking away a lot of our human connections, so some of us may only have enough time to give short spans of attention to one then move on to the next. Our social media accounts, texts, and emails are usually limited to a certain amount of space and characters to communicate. This spills over into our personal lives.

The 2 best nights for 1st dates

2010-09-09T12:14:00.000-07:00

Hold on there eager beaver, before you jump to read ahead, I highly recommend reading the reasoning. The first date can lead to more, if it goes successfully. First dates are nerve wracking enough as it is. The wondering, wishing, and worrying can really throw your game off. The adrenaline is pumping, endorphins are churning and your ego is boosted. It’s flattering to feel someone is interested in you. You don’t want to foul it up.

Keep in mind, women like to plan ahead, at least a few days in advance. This helps us decide will it be worth shaving our legs for? Traditionally, women are detailed oriented communicators, so the more details about the date, the better. If you give her some idea or you both can agree on a mutually interesting thing to do, she can dress for it.

Do your best not to disappoint her last minute, it will only add more time for you to wait for her to get dressed – again. Last minute changes are disappointing, this can give her the impression you did not value the opportunity enough to make sure it was well organized. Miminize that frustration level, she may not enjoy the evening as much filled with emotional upset and have that feeling associated with you. This will then take you longer to repair that ill mindset.

Make a few phone calls and ask interested in her questions to get to know her lifestyle and work schedule. This should be discussed in order to find the appropriate time frames. What you’re aiming for is a day in the middle of the week or her Friday night, her first night of her weekend, even if it’s on a Monday.

If she works the traditional 8:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m. banker business hours then you have to work around that. If she has kids who have activities, work around that. If her work schedule is the traditional Monday through Friday day hours then the following days are ideal.

1. Wednesday

Wednesdays are usually what I call bowling or bridge nights. Working for over twenty years in telemarketing sales and waiting tables, I’ve discovered Wednesday nights are the designated weeknight for a social activity. Be it church, choir, family game night, bridge club, book club, dart league, and so on. People are out of their homes or hosting in their homes. It helps break the monotony of a long work week.

But do not invite her to your social group quite yet or in your home. This is too much pressure for a first date. If you are in a social group, make the decision whether you will skip it to go out on a date. If you want to go bowling with your date, just be sure it is at a different location than where your league meets to avoid interruptions from curious associates. This night is about you two getting to know each other, not others getting to know more about your private life.

This night is ideal for a two to three hour date. If she works in the morning, be sure to have her home at a decent hour so she will be functional at work the next day. Avoid tempting her with a bar atmosphere or a late night coffee filled with caffiene as you do not want to be the blame of her poor performance at work. Don't drink alot on the first date. She may conclude from the impression you enjoy drinking too much and it may be a personal problem she may not want to deal with.

2. Friday

Friday nights are what I have observed as date nights. If either of you work the 8-5 Mon-Fri routine, this night helps you look forward to something for the weekend. However, it also helps you to use it as a scape goat if the night is not working well. The excuse ‘I’m really tired’ could also be the truth though, so don’t feel really disappointed or assuming she’s not interested if your date does not want to party til 2 am with you.

If she’s ready to go home, then respect that and take her home, you would rather her have a good image of you than a poor one. Its only a first a date, if you want to hang out all night afterwards, then drop her off and call your buddies.

Showing her you respect her well being gives her a good image of you. Whether it be the last one or not, she at least won’t feel guilty about doing something she may have regretted. You can move on and know at least you or her didn’t waste more time on something that wasn’t going to work out and either one of you would be miserable.

Don’t assume instantly she isn’t interested in a second date. It could really be a number of legitimate reasons: If she has kids, her body is used to going to sleep at a decent hour in order for her to be up hours before her kids. Her anticipation to see you all week kept her up with excitement. She may also have something planned in the morning.

Follow up with a phone call in a couple days. Call her on Sunday or Monday evening, the planning the week ahead days, to see if she would be interested in a second date either on Wednesday or Friday or her mid week night or first night of the weekend.

Five tips for guys women want you to know and follow

2010-09-04T17:16:00.000-07:00

Why is that so many of the most popular relationship self help books are mostly written by men but mostly read by women? Why is the rate of women pursuing more education and higher status jobs rising far higher than men? Guys! If you want to be pursued more then be that excellence we are reaching for. We know about it, we’ve seen it, and we want it.

Here, are only a few of the first of many cliff notes collected from a combo of master minds. Don’t think that this is a limited all-inclusive list. Come back for more tips.

1. Don’t complain about money you owe for alimony and especially child support.
How a woman can interpret this is your lack of value of your children and possibly of her. Child support does not end at the age of 18, even though you may be court ordered to pay a certain amount until then.

Women are future thinkers, we know there’s college, weddings, cars, hospital bills, and the occasional phone calls of “Can I come live with you for a while?” If you’re complaining about your financial obligation to your offspring now, this gives us the message you may not be ready and willing to invest in your current relationships either.

2. Don’t remind her that she will come second to your children.
She should already know, and shown by actions, that you will sacrifice for your offspring. If she has kids she will agree- kids first. However, no one wants to be reminded continuously they come second in anyone’s life, especially if you have already established an intimate committed connection. Too much of that will make her feel insignificant to you.

You can say you will put your kids first, but women appreciate reassurance and want to feel included in your life as well. Reassure her, if you are truly committed to one another, that you will communicate and do your best to include her as she is also part of your life at this point. Both sets of kids are part of both of your lives and both parents should be willing to do their part to be there for each other’s kids as well. Back up your “I’m there for my kids” statements by not complaining about point number 1.

3. Don’t think cause you’re dating someone with kids, the woman will take care/’mother’ you too.
Women want men who are providing and supportive too. An initiator, a good example to her kids, and one less person she has to worry so much about who will take more of her energy. All of us need to replenish our own energies to be better more enjoyable people to be around. If you can help her refuel her energy by taking some burdens off her hands, she may just use that energy to give back to you.

You want to be appreciated? Then do something she will appreciate. You want trust? Then be reliable, stable, someone she can brag to her friends with pride. We, of course, really, truly don’t like reminding you to do something, and yes, may get stuck in repeat mother role. It happens, but we expect you to be a responsible grown man who is just as domesticated as we are. We are future thinkers.

Please change the toilet paper roll completely, not just stack it on top of the getting low roll still on the holder. It can end up in the toilet and clog it. If you do that and that happens we will silently enjoy visualizing you fixing it. We are also more attracted to making love when you’ve bathed, smell nice, and laying on clean sheets you made the bed with. Now that’s someone we like to come home to.

4. Don’t complain about your ex so much.
Complaining about your ex will make us think you might complain about us. It also brings up painful emotions within you. Your emotions can affect your logic, reasoning, and rationality. Many of our decisions are made with emotions. How we feel about something. If we sense you are angry a lot, plainly, it isn’t attractive. We don’t want to deal with your angry side and have you take it out on us.

It is a new beginning with us, we want to have an enjoyable time just as much as you do. If it gets too much, find another outlet to vent and especially avoid using us as a punching bag during sex. Every once in awhile, angry built up anticipation make up sex is hot, but only when we are making up, not dispensing anger onto us.

5. Don’t compare us to your ex.
Don’t compare or predict because your ex did this or that that your current love will or won’t do the same. If she was a skanky whore, that could be one of the reasons why you are not with her anymore. Don’t use it as a manipulative tool to make us try to do things that will ‘impress’ you by trying to use phrases like: “well, she used to do that for me” or preface a request with, “I know you’re just gonna say no”.

Your ex isn’t here for me to validate what she did for you and it must not have been enough for you to stay with her. If you say I’m just gonna say no, I just might say no and not even encourage you to continue. If you set me up for an automatic no, you’ve given me the mind set that you are expecting me to say no. Avoid that manipulative pressure, just talk to me about what you want, like, and don’t like. It’s a lot easier to follow, consider, and agree on a compromise.

Chores burn calories but how much?

2010-01-09T16:53:00.000-08:00

We all know doing chores burns calories but how much? How can we burn more indoors and boost our moody winter blues mentality too? How can we maintain our all around health while staying put? Cloudy gray winter days make us tired and sleepy, too uninspired to move. Immobility brings on melancholy, leading to seasonal blues. Winter’s frigid temperatures de-motivates us from getting out of our cozy homes to go to the gym, but be reassured that we can burn calories indoors and boost our mentality with chores. Blast out and attack a few household duties to get back into better spirits.

City wide closed down snowy conditions makes going to the gym cumbersome if not impossible. It takes as much time, if not more, prepping to face the frozen elements than the time we’re in the gym. First, we change into our sweat working out outfits, only to have to wash them later or pack them in our gym bag to carry. Second, comes layers covering any exposed skin. Boots get sloppy in the sand, salt and snow mix. Of course apply the gym rule: Please don’t wear outside shoes on the machines. Then don’t forget, sitting in your car while it warms up, if you’re one of the unfortunate ones who doesn't have an automatic car starter.

Reconsider doing a few chores in the home to raise your body temperature and mood. I wonder if the Gods of Nature designed the winter slowdown to captivate us inside, forcing us to deal with our home base mess. Our hu'man'caves throughout the year settled, collected dust, and accumulated piles of stuff with mental labels of ‘I’ll do that later’ since last spring. Facing you, reminding you it’s still there, hasn’t gone anywhere, so fight inertia, stay in motion by simply conquering the mound.

Self talk your way to know the most routine chores burns calories and getting organized will feel rewarding.

According to the website www.healthstatus.com calculates:

For someone weighing 140 lbs to maintain, these chores can burn this many calories:

Brushing teeth 5 Min 13 Calories
Cooking 40 Min 112 Calories
Ironing 10 Min 23 Calories
Mopping 15 Min 71 Calories
Rearranging furniture 20 Min 140 Calories
Showering 20 Min 89 Calories
Sitting/Resting 30 Min 33 Calories
Talking on phone 30 Min 33 Calories
Walking up stairs 2 Min 17 Calories
Writing 30 Min 33 Calories

*A good suggestion to burn more is to combine some exercises while doing these routine chores such as: dancing, jogging or marching in place, leg lift reps, squats, and lunges. Or even tighten, hold, and release a few muscles while sitting.

Psychologically, the feeling of being organized and clean brings a good feeling of accomplishment and relief. Relief you can find your things with function and order. It’s healthy to throw out, or put things in organized out of sight storage, those things that have a negative memory anchor so you can move on to better. Looking back at all your stuff can give you the opportunity to reflect on growth and be prepared for new experiences. Cleaning out the clutter helps clear fresh space for new memories.

So, even if you can’t get the chance to run in place like a caged hamster on a machine, there’s ways you can still get the exercise and organization you need by cleaning. Add a few more body movements to burn more calories and attack a few tasks on your built up to do list to balance your insides when the outside is too cold to deal with.

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Free Events in the Omaha metro area Nov - Dec 2009

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Please contact the businesses directly for additional information
Brought to you for FREE
Donations are appreciated

Omaha Flea Market
Every Saturday and Sunday
10:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m.
72nd and L St.

Free Bible Study
Bellevue Church of Christ
Taken Privately by Mail

Free YMCA program membership
To Spouse of deployed guard or reserve member
Courtesy of Military One Source

Free Bingo
Each Wednesday of the month
Westgate Assisted Living
3030 S. 80th St
2:39 p.m.
Lacy 391-8566

Free theatre for UNO students
“The Miracle Worker”
Nov 18, 19, 20, 21
Dec 2-5
Thursday - Saturday60th and Dodge St
Omaha, NE
UNO
Weber Fine Arts Building
All others admission $5-$15

Free hot soup dinner, drink and dessert for donors
Bluffs Trinity Lutheran Church of Fremont, Nebr
Is sponsoring a coat drive
Wed Nov 18
6:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m.
2 miles North of Hwy 275 Bypass/Hwy 77 interchange on
Hwy 77 and 5 miles west on Cnty Rd Q at the intersection of
Cnty Rds 17 & Q.

Free ladies night
Thursday Nov 19th
6:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.
Accepting Non perishable for the Food Bank
Mulhall’s 120th and Maple
Free mini spa services provided by
Absolute Serenity Day Spa

Free Craft Show
First Lutheran Church
Saturday November 21st
9:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m.
2146 Wright St
Blair, NE
Free Admission

Free Benson Cheerleading Boutique
Saturday Nov 21st
10:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.
5120 Maple St

Free Admission
Fiber Arts Sale
Sat Nov 21st
9:00 a.m. – 4:00 p.m.
Omaha Weavers and Spinners Guild
Westside Community Center
3532 S. 108th St

Free Ginger Bread Display
Mormon Trail Center
Nov 21-Jan 1, 2010
Free Admission
9am-9pm
contact email:
hswinter@ldschurch.org
visitomaha

Free admission
Nov 21st and 22nd
Saturday 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.
Sunday 10:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.
KFOR Seasons of Craft
Lancaster Event Center
84th and Hancock
Lincoln, NE

Free thanksgiving dinner
Wed Nov 25
6:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.
Bellevue Christian Center
1400 Harvell Dr.
Call 291-0616

Free admission
Ponca Hills Annual Boutique
November 27th and 28th
9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.
9618 Calhoun Rd
3 blks N. of the Mormon Bridge

Free World Fest
Celebrating Christmas, cultures, and customs
Saturday Nov 28th
Noon to 4pm
Lied Activity Center
2700 Arboretum Drive
Bellevue, NE

Free Admission
Dec 4, 5, 11, 12, & 13
Friday - Sunday
Little Bethlehem Drive – Thru
www.firstchristiancb.org
20794 Hwy 92
Council Bluffs
Nativity scenes
Presented by First Christian Church
(712) 328-2606

Free admission
Saturday Dec 5th
9:00 a.m. – 4:00 p.m.
Benson High Winter Boutique
5120 Maple St

2009 Christmas & Craft Show & Ladies Extravaganza
Saturday Dec 5th
9:00 a.m. – 4:00 p.m.
Free admission with online coupon
http://www.omahagiftshow.com/
Westside Community Conference Center
3534 South 108th Street

Free drinks Open House
Saturday Dec 12th
6:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.
5 year Anniversary Open House
Sirens salon
1105 Howard St 2nd Flr
402-933-3333

No cover FREE MUSIC NIGHTS

Sundays
Free Acoustic
Soaring wings Vineyard
17111 So. 138th St.
Springfield, NE
2-5pm

Mondays
Free –no cover
Mondays
8 pm
Barley Street Tavern
Soups and Songs
2735 N. 62nd St
Omaha, NE

Monday
November 16th
7pm open blues jam
Wednesday
Blues Jam
8 p.m.
Old Mill Lounge
10944 W. Dodge Rd

Tuesday
Night Jams
Open mic 8:30 pm
Nebraska Brewing Co
Shadow Lake Towne Center
7474 Towne Center Pkwy
Suite 101
Papillion, NE

Tuesdays
6 pm
Zoo Bar
136 North 14th Street
Lincoln, NE 68508
Jazzocracy

Wednesdays
Free Open Mic
Sean O’Casey’s
108th & Q
Omaha, NE

Wednesdays
7pm Free
Audition Night, Band Camp
Whisky Roadhouse
2701 23rd Ave
Council Bluffs, IA

Thursdays
9pm
open Jam
Chrome Lounge
8552 Park Drive
Omaha

Thursdays
9 pm.
Free music
Rhythm Collective Reggae
Bones
1012 S. 10th St
Omaha, NE

Thursday
10:30 pm.
Every Free Karaoke
Duffy’s Tavern
1412 O St
Lincoln, NE

First Friday of the month
Free Music
7:00 p.m. –9:00 p.m.
Historic Brownville Winery Concerts
Free live music and finger food at Whiskey Run Creek Winery.
Brownville, ne
is just 10 minutes west of I-29, take Exit 110, on US 136.

Donations are highly appreciated as I offer this information free to my readers
Either by send money to my PayPal account at: Lendahand@tolendahand.com
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Please be nice, ethical, and have morals - please don’t steal my thunder! I’ve created this project personally and would like to continue. I offer this to my readers for free. I’ll do my best to research and post at least once a month. I may update or add info along the way if I find it or given information.

· If you currently know of any free events in Omaha please email me the information at least one week advance.
· If you are a business, a band, an artists and would like to be included in this list, please send a $10 payment to either my PayPal account or send a check to my mailing address and your information.
· Non-profit organizations or fundraisers are free.
· The fundraisers or looking for volunteers for charitable events page will be coming soon, if you know of any please let me know.

On occasion, events are found from public publications in the local area or provided to me.

Copyright 2009 by Lenda Hand Yu productions.

7 sweets and treats that attract the un- fungi- yeast.

2009-11-06T21:25:00.000-08:00

Throughout the year we celebrate all sorts of holidays and special occasions that give us temptations to eat sweets or treat ourselves with someone sweet. Parties, outings, and even the snacks at the team meetings can bring more than just a temporary sugar rush happy feeling. Too much can bring an unwanted misbalance of irritating yeast to the body.

Yeast infections or candida can occur in the esophagus, vagina, digestive track and skin. Contrary to popular misbelief men can catch the infection, suffer from it and spread it.

Symptoms
· Itchy skin
· Irritation
· White discharge
· Odor
· Lesions
· Redness
· Scaly dry skin

As any health condition if it persists longer than a week or you are unsure seek medical attention and advice.

Seven trigger factors
1. Antibiotics
Even though this health assisted medication can be effective in fighting many other bodily infections, it tends to strip the body of any bacteria, including the good kind.

More doctors recommend taking probiotics such as Lactobacillus acidophilus found commonly in yogurt as live active enzymes. More studies are being done, but it has been found to assist digestion and fight bad bacteria. The digestive tract holds plenty of toxic waste in the intestines destined for elimination. Be sure this is functioning well.

Some will also prescribe an over the counter or prescription topical cream.

2. Contraceptives and pregnancy
These can alter hormones and body chemistry. Drugs, toxins, and harmful substances effect the detoxifying function of the liver and pancreas.

These can prevent or delay the regular natural hormonal cycle.

3. Sugar levels
The liver and pancreas help control glucose levels or (sugar)

· People suffering from Diabetes have a higher chance of getting a yeast infection.
· Refined sugar foods like candy, soda, bread, alcoholic drinks, rice, pickled foods, processed foods, potatoes, sauces, dips, and cheese can increase the production of yeast.

4. Warm and wet conditions

· Sex
· Whirlpool, tubs, saunas, steam
· Fever, high body temperature
· Exercise
· Weight gain

5. Health conditions
Existing health problems like Diabetes, high blood pressure, cholesterol, flu, colds, allergies, or other weakened conditions make the body work harder compromising the immune system.

Wear a condom to minimize passing it on. This helps reduce the risk of spreading contagious diseases, but not 100% effective.

Stress can increase temperatures, lactic acids, sleeplessness, irritability, hunger, and changes in body chemistry. Factors that can tempt us to seek comfort foods or eat for an extra energy boosts, generate skin changes, and cause liquids to churn.

Exercise regularly to keep the body in good shape and strength to reduce illnesses. Plus, Take a good multi vitamin with antioxidants that help fight free radicals.

6. Hygiene
· Practice good dental care hygiene.
What you ingest will affect your body chemistry. Any open sores, bacteria, and irritation can increase the chances for your body to catch an infection.

· Keep dry and clean.
After a shower be sure to dry off completely. Use an antibacterial soap.

· Cotton and loose fitting clothes.
Natural fibers help the body breathe to keep air flowing. Tight strict clothing can cause the body to naturally react with swelling, redness, and temperatures to rise from the irritation.

7. Allergies
· Avoid scented products.
This can include feminine hygiene products, cologne, perfume, and sprays.

· Avoid unnatural or synthetic items.
This includes some douches that contain unnatural ingredients.

· Allergies can cause mucus membranes to activate and body temperatures to rise. Creating a warm and wet human incubator.

Next time you reach for the sweets or your sweetie consider moderation by reducing a little here and there and protect yourself here and there. Our bodies, like our minds, become stimulated with what we give it. Keep the body in optimal condition with good healthy choices. Consider bringing healthier snacks to the team meeting or parties.

Alegent Health Systems. World Wide Web. As of Nov 2009. URL: http://www.alegent.com/

Emedicine health. World Wide Web. As of Nov 2009. URL: http://www.emedicinehealth.com/candidiasis_yeast_infection/page11_em.htm

Kids Health. World Wide Web. As of Nov 2009. URL:
http://kidshealth.org/parent/nutrition_fit/nutrition/sugar.html#

Ten Easy Steps to Improve Your Online Security

2009-10-31T10:45:00.001-07:00

Online scammers are getting smarter. Graphic design is becoming so popular that thieves are learning quickly about codes, design set up, and marketing tactics. Here’s how they do it and find out how to combat it.

Most of us aren’t as high tech versed experts to understand IPs, VOIPs, VPNs, ISBs, HTTPs, encryption and so on but we’d like to know in common English terms some steps we can do ourselves to be careful online. It takes more than relying on a virus software program, firewall, or cleaning the hard drive to stay secure online.

Coming from some experience working online, e-commerce, and marketing following are some self-applied tips, research, and time that hackers hope you don’t have or do.

1. Be cautious to open a suspicious email that says:
· If the subject line is too generic.
· Does not address you by your name.
· Has typos.
· Uses scare tactics -Act now or else or one of your friends says...
· Misspells your name.
· From someone you don't know.
· Doesn’t show any name besides the email address.
· Is from a business you've never done business with.

2. Be wary of getting emails from email addresses that contain:
· Mostly numbers or combine letters and numbers
· From free email domain accounts like @yahoo.com,@aol.com,@gmail.com,or @hotmail.com

Progressively, many of these free email offering companies are becoming more aggressive with spam filtering. Paid subscriptions such as company emails or Internet providers usually offer added security as part of their paid package.

3. Ads on free online classified sites:
· Fake ads are being used to lure email correspondences.
· Not enough information is provided.

Scammers post ads posing as a legitimate offer to get a reply. They prey on people's vulnerability and collect email addresses or personal information. Some may hook you in with a question to see if you'll reply back, then they reply back with another email with a suspicious link or even pass on or sell your email.

4. Be careful of emails that look like it’s from a company:
· Look alike sites.
· Emails that look like it’s from the company.

Such as (only used as examples):
· (name of your bank)admin@yahoo.com
· (customerservice or admin)@bestbuys.com (look alike site may be
www.bestbuys.com)

Don't be so quick to click on a link in a suspicious email. Especially if they don't tell you what it is or entice you with questions like:
- Can't believe this is you
- Is this you
- I caught you ...

If the link looks like a jumble up gibberish or misspelled.

Major established businesses’ sites contain a contact us tab or a customer service phone number to report or ask about any possible suspicious emails. They may ask you to forward the email to assist them to apply more security strategies. Remember, don't click on any links.

. 5. Use of passwords:
· Don't let the computer save your passwords.
· Log out of sites
· Don't use the same password for all of your computer or online access sites.
· Change your password every 60 days.
· Make it personal and not public information.
· Use combinations of numbers, letters, and symbols more than six characters.
· Don’t write your passwords down in an internal computer file.

Portable laptops and cell phones that can access the Internet are becoming a second lifeline body attachment gadget. Lost or stolen can lead to stolen identity.

It's becoming trendy to use numbers in replace of letters in text or emails. Problem is the thieves are catching on.

6. Analyzing email addresses with a marketing mind:
· Names are obvious, especially full names and hyphenated married names.
· Combination of numbers in the email.
· Nicknames or phrases.

These are ways that can reveal names, sex, age, date of birth, hobbies, how many are in your family, single or married, possible parts of a phone number like area code and more.

7. Be careful with company email use:
· Don't use your company email for personal communication.
· Don’t send to or read your personal email at work.
· Don’t access public social network sites from work.

This creates a leaky breach of a security trail. Major companies pay a high dollar price for a high level of security. Highly educated gifted programmers create calculated theory formulas to trace what is sent and received.

Be careful of sending a company email to personal emails. If a personal email is hacked into, the bad guys may have access to confidential information.

Although a majority of companies usually use first name initials then full last name, a thief may call a main switchboard asking questions or search hard enough for the full name.

8. Check your spam, junk, sent, and trash folder often:
· Once a thief has access to your email they control where a mail message goes.
· They may have time to delete the trash or sent folder.
· They can send emails to friends, steal addresses, and delete them.

9. Be hesitant of sending chain emails or text message chains:
· It reveals people’s emails or phone numbers on the list.
· Use the BCC option to block other people’s emails.
· Be careful of replying or forwarding, especially if it says:
“ I hope I get this back or Pass it along or Keep it going”.

Most email outgoing messages will contain a BCC option, which means blind carbon copy. This option can allow you to block the recipient from seeing other people's email addresses. You never know who on the list has had their email hacked.

10. Be careful of who you give your email or personal information to:
· Mailing lists.
· Contests.
· Chain emails.
· Social Internet sites.
· Sites that ask for your email right away.
· Unknown businesses.

Think logically and reasonably when looking at information. And search for more valid information. The Internet is a wide open space still going through governing stages. Start with your own accessible resources to step up your own online security community.

Additional information about staying safe online from reputable sites:

Office of Information Technology – University of California at Irvine

Norton Antivirus free trial offers

Korean Culture Connection in Omaha, Nebraska

2009-10-28T17:54:00.000-07:00

There is a small yet spread out Korean culture in the Omaha area. Following are some resources to get connected to the roots of this quietly proud group. I’ve lived here for over thirty years with a full-blooded Korean mother. I’ve had the fortunate experience of eating home made gourmet style Korean cuisine. She’s had to make do with what is available at the oriental stores.

The more one is around a culture, the faster they’ll learn about it.

Korean Student Association (University of Nebraska at Lincoln)

University of Nebraska at Omaha

National Association of Korean Americans

My favorite Asian Grocery Stores carrying lots of Korean kinds of foods:

Mekon
3068 Q St, Omaha, NE 68107
Authentic Feel! Super prices! Small parking lot

Mison’s Food Mart
1414 Harlan Dr, Bellevue, NE 68005
Packed tight with food and gifts

Oriental Food Stores
2920 S 84th St, Omaha, NE, 68124
So open, such variety!

Korean Restaurants

Hong Guk Kwan
5032 S 108th St, Omaha, NE, 68137
Nicely decorated, a little more upscale space.

Korean Grill
1408 Harlan Dr, Bellevue, NE, 68005
Small counter deli style next to Mikon oriental food store.

Korean House
2413 Lincoln Rd Bellevue, NE 68005
Practically self serve!

Korea King
4719 S. 96th St. Omaha, NE 68127
Good food to go!

Christian Churches
Some churches, not listed, may have a small Korean group who meet. Call them to find out.

Korean Baptist Church/Chandler Acres Baptist Church
7505 Chandler Acres Omaha, NE
10:30 a.m. Sunday

Korean Church of Lincoln
4915 W Adams St, Lincoln, NE

Korean Presbyterian Church
14015 Q St. Omaha, NE

St. Andrews/ Kim’s Catholic Church
2617 31st ST Omaha, NE
10 a.m. Sunday

Omaha Korean Assembly of God
5603 Fay Blvd. Omaha, NE
9 a.m. and 11 a.m. Sunday

Adoption
Holt International Adoption.
Adoption agency for all countries including Korea.

Nebraska Korean Adoptees

Asian American Celebrities use Westernized Names

2009-10-27T20:06:00.000-07:00

Asian names are difficult to remember and to say to an unaccustomed American ear. As westernized generations blend in, they choose to ease the transition by adopting an easier name for their newfound friends to remember. These may be popular shorter names sounding similar to their own like Sean for Chun or Ken for Wen, or from religious influence or after a favorite celebrity. Adopted Asian children may be assigned a Western name either by the agency or the new parents.

To legally change a name on a federal identification card, documents must be presented to government agencies such as birth or family papers. Many non-American countries carry family papers or birth papers rather than birth certificates filled out by family members. Officially registering a name of a child in Asia is not done the same way as in the U.S. Once approved, a legal U.S. document such as Naturalization, Adoption or Citizenship papers may display both Asian and American names.

Cross Over Speech Difficulties
Across several languages some sounds are not an exact match nor even exist to translate well. Tongues, mouths, lips, enunciation, pronunciation and phonetic emphasis are all habitually conditioned since birth to learn the surrounding culture language(s). Clash of new cross over sounds or wrong vocal articulation can cause embarrassment. Asians very seldom choose names with R or L's. In Korean, both letters are represented by the same alphabet symbol and used interchangeably. Asians are mocked with this speech difficulty in many comedy skits.

Tidbit: Persons who learned a new language over the age of twelve will usually show small signs of an accent.

In the beginning of Obama’s presidential campaign, large amounts of people misspoke his name as Osama as a recognizable assimilated close reference. Osama is a known terrorist versus Obama is now the President. An opposite comparison of character of what the mind can recall that may cause embarrassment.

Honoring Family Names
In Korean culture, it is tradition in introductions to say the last name first then the first name to honor past family ancestry. To pass down respect for lineage; middle, last and first names were repeated or switched around in order to keep family names continuing. Similar to renaming a first-born son as Edgar William to William Edgar.

Popular American first names for Asian women:
Anne

Christina

CoCo

Connie

Dianna

Grace

Jenny

Joy

Judy

Kim

Linda

Lisa

Laura

Lucy

Maggie

Sandra

Sue

Popular American first names for Asian boys:
Ben

Bobby

Charlie

Chris

Daniel

David

Jackie

James

John

Ken

Pat

Sean

Nicknames are Universal
Some may go by their nicknames such as Jim for James, Chris for Christopher, and Dee for Dianna or Nicknames of their own Asian names such as: Pannapa to Nan. Like many cultures, nicknames are not unusual to answer to or have. Most Asians only use their Asian birth names for official documentation such as medical, insurance, department of motor vehicles, or taxes. Among close friends it is not normally used. Progressively as acceptance of diversity is growing many may use their natural given name as a sign of Asian pride.

Asians are not the only ones who adopt this name changing idea. Middle Eastern and Africans may give themselves nicknames or use initials for short easier use. For example, A.K. is short for Akpedje or Akouete.

Tidbit: Many Africans are taught to learn at least three languages by ten years of age.

Longer names with many consonants and few vowels are difficult for Americans to remember, spell, or sound out correctly. Respectfully an attempt to say it may be made initially but seldom remembered easily the second or third time meeting.

Don’t be alarmed if an Asian person doesn’t respond to the assigned Western name at first calling. It probably means it’s a new name for them to get used to. To learn a new word, idea, or concept requires repetition for recognition. Next time an Asian girl introduces herself as Jenny it may not be her birth name but she answers to it.

Fun Famous Asian American Name Facts According to imdb.com:

Bobby Lee - Birth name: Robert Lee jr

Bruce Lee - Birth name: Lee Jun Fan

Connie Chung - Birth name: Constance Yu Hwa Chung

Jackie Chan - Birth name: Kong-Sang Chan

John Cho - Birth name: John Yohan Cho

Lisa Ling - Nickname: Baby young one

Lisa Lu - Birthname Yen Chun Lu

Lucy Lui - Born to Chinese immigrants

Margaret Cho - Korean American- Birth name: Moran ChoMing-Na Wen - Has a brother named Jonathan

Sandra Oh - Korean American- Sister named Grace, Brother named Ray

Photos and content:

The Internet Movie Database. World Wide Web. Sept 2009. URL: http://www.imdb.com/.Wikipedia: The Free Encyclopedia. World Wide Web. Sept 2009. http://www.wikipedia.org/